We are a culture obsessed with the happiness to be found by “fixing” ourselves. Amazon has 92,984 books about happiness.
- Think and Grow Rich
- Brave Enough
- The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom
- You Are a Badass: How to Stop Doubting Your Greatness and Start Living an Awesome Life
- The 7 Habits of Highly Successful People
- Smarter Faster Better: the Secrets of Being Productive in Life and Business
- Why Do I Do That?: Psychological Defense Mechanisms and the Hidden Ways They Shape Our Lives
- Big Magic: Creative Living
It seems that we are all flawed and need LOTS of fixing!
Years ago. I tried to focus on something I’d heard on Oprah. (Oprah was the source of all truths before Facebook.)
Your first thought when you awake will set the tone for your day.
This concept is part of the law of attraction. Put it out there and it will come. What you think becomes your reality. (The Secret and The Magic Secret) It must have made sense to me because I wrote about it in my journal. BUT try as I might to change it, my first thought every day was I have to pee. Now! The older I get the more imperative that thought becomes.
I have to pee. What does that say about me? About the kind of day I’m going to have? About my life? What am I attracting?
Reality check. Don’t drink so much water or tea at night and get up quickly in the morning!
The Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up
A few months back I listened to an interview with the author of this book. If you have read a previous post (Clutter), you know that I tend to pile things up around my landing spots. I could use some magic in this area of my life, so I attempted the tidying process suggested by the author while imagining the magic that was coming my way.
Reality check. I found two shirts in my closet that I’d forgotten I owned. The piles of books and papers grew back within 24 hours. (I’m sure it’s something in the Maine air that promotes such growth.)
We are surrounded by irrational optimism that tries to persuade us that tomorrow will be a better day if we change something today.
Isn’t that why we make New Year’s Resolutions? THIS is the year that I will lose 30 pounds and… and what? What is going to be so different that my life will be noticeably better? If I’m serious about losing 30 pounds, then what is a rational reason for giving up the extra pork chop and dessert? Lower my blood pressure. Ease the aging joints. Fit into clothes that are 10 years old (that I did not get rid of when tidying up). Those are outcomes that might make me happier. If I focus on the potential outcomes, I will have a better chance at successfully losing the 30 pounds.
Stay focused and never give up.
Reality check. The world changes. We change. Sometimes we need to refocus. And we frequently need to change direction. The time comes when we need to recognize that maybe we had the wrong goals. Maybe our employer doesn’t need the skills we offer. Maybe living with a bit of clutter and peeing right now are the important things. Maybe 25 pounds is good enough. If I am so focused on the irrational belief that I need to make tomorrow better, I’ll miss today.
Positive mind. Positive vibe. Positive life.
This I believe, and I try to live it. It’s generic, but it helps me focus on today. I’m not rich or thin. I’m not famous or powerful. I have lots of bad habits and a few pretty good ones. I’m brave enough. I have my creative moments. I have attracted some pretty interesting friends.
Do I need to be happier tomorrow than I am today? Is it possible to be happier? Tomorrow might not come.
What is wrong with today? If I think about where I am today; what I am doing at this moment; how I feel right now; then I discover that I AM happy – right now. At this very moment – I am happy.
I think I’ll enjoy my now. Today is the magic.